POLYGAMY - (10) POLYGAMY FOR SEX DRIVE ONLY

POLYGAMY - OBJECTIONS, Q & A (10)

POLYGAMY FOR SEX DRIVE ONLY

How does a man know that he is called to be polygamous? Is it only to satisfy his sex drive?

How does a man know that he is called to be married? The answer can be the same reason for a man to take on another wife. The only difference here is that a polygamist is to have the capacity of managing a more dynamic and complex environment which others are not willing for or incapable of. Just as visiting a prostitute is different from marrying a wife, womanizing is vastly different from being polygamous. So just as there are many other reasons for a first marriage, there can be these same reasons for a subsequent marriage.

There is nothing wrong with a sex drive as long as the person sins not. God has made sex needful for His plan in procreation. But not just procreation, it is vital in expressing intimacy and love, thus making a husband and wife relationship distinct from all other relationships. Even though there are many other expressions and fulfillment of a marriage union, sex has become an integral part of marriage. Thus God also gives the sex drive to men and women in varying degrees to fulfill their call and responsibilities. A higher sex drive (not just as a desire to cover and provide for more women) is also an indication of a bigger capacity to fulfill his responsibility as a loving husband and a productive father. Somebody puts it this way; to force all men to be monogamous is likened to making lions eat lettuce.

For whatever reason that a person becomes polygamous (or monogamous), whether it is out of Kingdom-mindedness, compassion for those in need, want of more children, need for more help, talents, companionship or sex, or just plainly falling in love with another eligible woman, whatever is the initial motivation, the man must ultimately fulfill all his responsibilities to be a good husband to all his wives and a good father to all his children and he would already have done well before God. Also it would be required of all men, not just specifically polygamists (or else it would be an unfair demand), but also monogamists and celibates to be biblically patriarchal like the biblical patriarchs that includes not just Abraham and David but also Jesus and the Apostles.

However, because of upholding a testimony in this generation that is so inclined to misunderstand and condemn polygamy, a good testimony of the polygamous is much needed. For kingdom’s sake it becomes an extra burden for pioneering polygamists, to be especially well ordered in family management. Thus knowing the extra trials and pressures they would receive from the world and the Church, we who are spiritual ought to give them emphathy and respect them rather than impose unnecessary expectations and demands on them. As long as one would be capable and responsible to handle his situation, God does not require him to be spiritual to be polygamous anymore than He would require him to be spiritual to be monogamous.